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Hi Maria here (Miracles creative director),

I’ve been reading this book called “for women only” by Shaunti Feldhahn and beneath the title it says, “What you need to know about the inner lives of men.” It’s a great short read about how men are wired. I purchased this little book from my church because I was so intrigued by the title. What did I have to lose? Not realizing that I had everything to gain, I started reading. The book is based on 7 major “revelations” about men which are as follows:

o Men Need Respect (i.e.: Men would rather feel unloved than inadequate and disrespected)
o Men Are Insecure (i.e.: Despite their “in control” exterior, men often feel like impostors and are insecure that their inadequacies will be discovered)
o Men Are Providers (i.e.: Even if you personally made enough income to support the family’s lifestyle, it would make no difference to the mental burden he feels to provide)
o Men Want More Sex (i.e.: Your sexual desire for your husband profoundly affects his sense of well-being and confidence in all areas of his life)
o Men Are Visual (i.e.: Even happily married men struggle with being pulled toward live and recollected images of other women)
o Men Are Unromantic Clods (i.e.: Actually, most men enjoy romance and want to be romantic-but hesitate because they doubt they can succeed)
o Men Care About Appearance (i.e.: You don’t need to be a size 3, but your man does need to see you making the effort to take care of yourself-and he will take on significant cost or inconvenience in order to support you)

Each of these was expounded upon and dissected based on interviews with hundreds of men but I will give you the abridged version.

The first revelation is that men need respect; a woman has the power to either tear her man down or build him up to the sky. Without respect men literally will shut us out! Seriously, think about a time in your relationship when you blatantly disrespected your man. What was his reaction? If this book is correct, which in my opinion it is, then we must respect our men to keep them engaged in the relationship.

The next important principle is that men are wired to provide and we must not take that away from them. They work long hours to provide for their families and that is what they were made to do; provide for us. I want to emphasize this as much as possible: LET THEM PROVIDE FOR YOU!!!!!!!!

We hold the key to a man’s well-being and confidence; how powerful are women and we didn’t even know it! All you have to do is have incredible, gratifying, mind-blowing sex with your man. For men, love is synonymous with sex and if they are not getting any, then they feel unloved.

On that same token, men are visual and we have to be cognizant of the fact that it’s no disrespect to us; it’s just how they are wired. I really struggle with this one because I am a hot blooded, possessive Greek woman and I can’t comprehend how a man who is with me and is happy can even glance at another woman! Just remember that if he is truly in love with you, you have nothing to worry about. They can’t help it! It’s how they are wired.

It’s no secret that women want romance and men know it. We want to be wined, dined, bought gifts and swept off our feet but the number one complaint is lack of romance. Did you know that men really are romantic? Did you know that they want to do all these things for us? All we have to do is let them and facilitate it.

And the big finale, the one thing that the majority of women dread: Appearance! Since men are visual, they love for women to take care of themselves. Men believe that if you take care of your appearance, you care for them! Ladies, please don’t take this as you have to be a size 3 and deprive yourself of food. Men just want to see that you keep yourself beautiful by doing your nails, getting your hair done, grooming, exercising etc.

There you have it ladies: all you needed to know about men summarized.

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